There's a family photograph taken when I was about six or seven. We're walking down the road where we lived. When my father saw this photograph he noticed something about me that he'd missed before, and he decided to do something about it. From then on every day for I don't know how long, it seemed like forever to me, but was probably only weeks, I would end up in tears. Having noticed that my feet turned inwards, he made me walk with them turned outwards. Up and down the room every day. It was so difficult and frustrating because at first I just couldn't do it. I'd be walking up and down that room bawling away as I tried to do what he wanted. I noticed that as I concentrated on turning my feet outwards, my hands would turn outwards too. My brain just wouldn't separate my upper limbs from my lower ones. Every session would end with painful muscles in legs and arms.
Eventually I did learn to walk properly and I'm forever grateful to my father for his persistence. I imagine that the last thing he wanted when he came home tired from a hard day at work was to listen to me crying and protesting when what he was actually doing was showing me he loved me.
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- Sunday, 22. Oct, 2006 @ 15:57:42
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- Tuesday, 24. Oct, 2006 @ 18:44:02
Pity there weren't any ballet classes I could have gone too, it would probably have saved both my father and myself a lot of frustration. Still, he did do it, and I think I must have tried his patience sorely with my crying. The turning out of the hands was funny, but I just couldn't do it without. I hasten to add that these days I walk with my feet straight, and my hands as they should be.
I never realised that the legs had to be turned out from the hips. Amazing what one can learn just be blogging.
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- Sunday, 22. Oct, 2006 @ 18:52:22
Tough love!
But I'm glad it worked for you.
Imagine parents doing that today?
They'd probably get a visit from Social Services...!-
- Tuesday, 24. Oct, 2006 @ 18:48:25
Tough love - you're right. I suppose these days it could be seen as child abuse, especially bearing in mind all the noise I made whilst doing it. I'm glad it worked for me too. It really was quite something he did for me, particularly bearing in mind that he didn't usually show much interest in me at other times.
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- Sunday, 22. Oct, 2006 @ 23:11:21
My husband had that sort of traeatment when he was growing up and now he's all in favour of using the same techniques on our daughter - aged 3, to stop her turning her feet in and also biting her nails.
I am horrified by it - surely there has to be a better way! I believe firmly in encouraging the good, rather than constantly drawing attention to and criticising the bad.-
- Tuesday, 24. Oct, 2006 @ 19:01:33
Could you suggest to your husband that your daughter has ballet lessons when she's a little older? That way someone else could teach her to turn her feet outwards, and she'd probably find the lessons fun. Or maybe your GP could suggest something?
I used to bite my nails too as a child. My mother took advice and put salt on them. It was a plan that rather backfired as I love salt.
Maybe your husband doesn't realise that the carrot is more effective than the stick (figuratively speaking). Constant critisicm doesn't help at all. The problem is that because they respect their parents, certain people believe that if they did something in a specific way, then that is the right way. Hopefully you'll succeed in convincing your husband to see things your way.
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How funny that your arms would turn out as well as your feet!
It must have been hard for him to continue making you walk properly when you were making such a fuss, so he showed his love, as you say, by persisting even though you couldn't see why at the time.
I used to walk with my feet turned out because I trained in ballet and we had dance with our legs turned out from our hips.